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True Confession: I was a virgin, but he kept pressuring me & now I’m pregnant

By on September 19, 2012

I have been seeing somebody for 9 months now. We were together for 8 months when we had sex. I was a virgin, and believed in sex after marriage until he came in and changed it.

He was very pushy for sex throughout our relationship, and I decided to hold it back. So, we had a break-up on the 18th of March because I wouldn’t be a real girlfriend by sleeping with him, I guess, and that he was sexually frustrated. So, I told him, “it’s okay if you don’t want to be with me. I’ll let you go and I’ll move on.” I didn’t want to beg him like always to, “come back and I love him, etc.”

He was fed up with being needy. He texts me later on saying, “meet me tomorrow, we’ll talk this through.” And, I say “No, I have school tomorrow.” And, he says “last chance.” So, I got a little worried and I went to see him. So, we get to his house and he takes me into his bedroom. He starts taking my clothes off and he says, “I just want to lay down with you naked,” and I thought, “Oh, okay, at least he doesn’t want to screw me.” Then, it kind of went a bit sexual. He puts on a condom and does the deed. And, I lay there hoping that he’ll change from that day onwards, and that he’ll see that I love him.

Guess not. Two weeks later I realize I’m pregnant. My blood test confirms this. I let him know of this – at first he seemed okay – we were discussing what we were going to do. And, then a couple of weeks later he’s picking fights with me over stupid things, being cold, and being distant.

I’m all alone and don’t know what to do. There are days where he disappears and doesn’t talk to me and I’m left feeling miserable and used. Any advice would be great.

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  • John

    he used a condom and you are pregnant??? Hmm… the guy must be a spirit!!!

  • Moutex2011

    Are youu kidding.
    Do you mean that the condom teared in the process.
    maybe you enjoyed it and tried it out with another guy guy and the result
    is your complain.
    If the boyfriend treat you noe with indifference, my reasoning maybe his mindset. VERY UNFORTUNATE AS U HAVE YOURSELF TO BLAME. Well se a doctor immediately.

  • Julius

    Please don’t listen to the asses who are tearing you down in the comments or implying that you slept with someone else. Condoms aren’t 100% effective people and the fail rate increases with misuse, or even age of the condom itself.

    As for you my dear, you need to find out if this man is ready to step up and be a man and marry you and you need to find out now. From his attitude, he is probably as scared and confused as you are (in addition to being an ass). The fact is he pressured you and has to deal with the consequences, as will you for giving in. You will also need to think about why that “last chance” affected you at all if you were really done with this relationship. But that is past and your main concern is what to do next. Good luck, I don’t envy your options, but it isn’t the end of the world. You still have a chance for happiness regardless of what you choose to do.

  • ksabba

    @john. I wander ow she got prenant while usn a condom. Mayb he’s a spirit sha

  • vj

    You should not have allowed him, a man after sex before marriage does not love you. You should have kept your vow and departed. D deed is done, do not abort and God will see u through.

  • gloria

    Oh dear! That must be terrible for you! I don’t have any advice for you better than wat julius adviced.please take good care of yourself and what’s inside of you.men will always be men.

  • Hassumail

    I advice you not abort the preganant be courage and ask God forgiveness

  • http://twitter.com/Adeyosola Adeyosola GBADEBO

    Don’t pay attention to people who drop negative statements…… It happens to the best of us humans, neither should u sit down in regret…… Focus on what to do next….. The choice is totally yours: ending a life before it begins is bad, but bringing an unwanted child into the world is worse. Know this, the choice is yours and no one has the moral right to judge you. weigh your options (…. Can u afford to love and provide for a baby on your own? Do you have those who would support you? E.t.c.
    Know that no matter your choice God Loves you.
    As for the guy don’t pressure him, this is an opportunity for you to know who he is…… It is normal to be scared, let him determine wither he is a coward or he is courageous and returns to take responsiblity…..
    Whatever choice you make “in or out” God will see you through.
    So *smile*

  • am abassador in abuja.

    sorry dear. you broke the hedge, now the serpent has struck.why did u not stayed focused to ur belief.u choose to please man rather than God?. the consequence……….starring at you now. But still put on faith. dont be discouraged. you just failed once, you wont fail again. abortion?…….NO. you will be comforted if you saty focused. keep praying, God do not forsake His own.

  • Panret

    Girl u know him already & u know what he want from u while he invited u & u go, u even go inthe inner room with him on his bedroom. Tha truely prove to me that u like it if not there are many husband out there that if u pray to God he ‘ll surely give u a responsible one. Pls used that as an example & never u repeat such again if truely u want to be for God. Any guy that always insist on sex b4 Marriage don’t love at told so be inform & be wise. U even make me get hungry bcos of that attitute u made, Pls return back to God & ask for forgiveness. Good’ay